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9 Ways to Reinvent Yourself After a Painful Breakup

| TJ Gibbs |

Breakups can be painful. But the pain of a breakup can serve a positive purpose: it can be the catalyst to reinvent yourself. After a breakup, you have new-found free time and the motivation to make a change.

How do you go about making a positive change?

Consider these strategies:

  1. Find a healthy weight. Breakups can be a tremendous motivator to either lose fat or gain muscle. Show your ex what they’re missing! Focus on developing habits that will lead you to your bodyweight goal. Hire a personal trainer if you can afford one.
  • A healthy diet, exercise, and patience are all you need. Changing your weight is certainly challenging, but many people still manage to do it. Use your breakup as motivation.
  • Take a class. Take a course at a local college and learn something new. You’ll get out of the house, meet new people, and learn some new information. What better way could you spend your time?

  • Learn a new skill. If you’re going to reinvent yourself, go all out. Learn to do something new that will enhance your professional or social life. Join Toastmasters or take an acting class. Work on your speed-dating skills. Think of all the new things you can learn that would enhance your life. Pick one and get busy.

  • Update your wardrobe. The clothes you choose to wear say a lot about you. Ensure they’re saying what you want them to say. Take your most fashion-conscious friend shopping with you and keep your mind open. Allow your friend to choose a few outfits for you. You can bet you’ll make a new impression on everyone you know.

  • Learn to be more assertive. Is it possible to be too assertive? Maybe, but you’re probably not there yet. Being assertive means that you’re willing to share your opinions, wants, and needs. This is attractive to others and will do a lot to enhance your life.

  • Perfect your listening skills. Nothing will help your social life and relationships more than perfecting your ability to listen. Those with the worst listening skills have tremendous social difficulties. They come off as rude, disinterested, and odd. Stop your brain from searching for the next witty thing to say and learn to pay attention.

  • Meet new people. A new life requires some new people. What types of people do you admire? What types of people fascinate you? Get busy making contact with people you’d like to add to your life. Think about the places you’d find them and use that to your advantage.

  • Change your routine. Break out of your rut. Buy new toothpaste. Take a new route to work. Try a new restaurant for lunch. Get a new hairstyle. Change anything you normally do without thinking. New behaviours create a new life. What can you do differently today that you never do?
  • Remove the dead weight from your life. Drop the commitments, clothing, items, and people from your life that no longer serve your greater purpose. Everyone gets off course after a few years. Now is the perfect time to right the ship and clean house. Things that were right for you five years ago may have lost their usefulness.

Get over your breakup by focusing on yourself. Join a gym and make some new friends. Learn something new. Reinvent yourself into a person you respect and enjoy. Create a life that excites you!

Use your breakup to your advantage. It might be the best thing that ever happened to you!

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Articles that TJ writes for Life & Love cover all steps in the cycle of love and include tips and advice for many dating or relationship issues. Her experience as a Love Therapist, Love Coach and Life Coach bring a real-life approach to everyday situations.

Remember life is for loving – that includes yourself!

Tj x


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