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Author: TJ Gibbs

Articles that TJ writes for Life & Love cover all steps in the cycle of love and include tips and advice for many dating or relationship issues. Her experience as a Love Therapist, Love Coach and Life Coach bring a real-life approach to everyday situations Remember life is for loving – that includes yourself! TJ x

Why Gratitude Matters

Gratitude is key to happiness as many times we are so focused on the big picture (the outcome) that we miss that happiness is actually a result of an accumulation of smaller goals.  By giving thanks for being able to afford your driving lessons you recognise that this in itself is an achievement, to do likewise when you pass your theory test...

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Is An Affair The End?

With accusations and admissions of cheating an everyday media headline you may be forgiven in thinking that the majority of relationships encounter infidelity. What % of people do you think cheat on their partners – 50%? 65%?  Are women just as likely to cheat on their partners as men? It might surprise you to know that having reviewed...

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5 Ways to Take Advantage of Alone Time in a Relationship

When your partner is out and about without you, do you feel lonely and wonder what to do to fill the time until they return? Actually, this time without your partner is important!A healthy relationship will have moments of alone time for each person. Your relationship can go through different stages, and the amount of alone time you have will...

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Life After Dating – Post-Divorce or Widowhood

If you are finding yourself a divorcee or widower in later life the question of remaining alone for your future years may well have crossed your mind and those of others around you who may want you to move on and find happiness again.Both divorce and death mean not just grieving the loss of a loved one as you would a friend or a parent, but also...

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Break the Cycle of Pain in Your Relationships in 4 Steps

Old habits don’t have to control you or your partner. It’s possible to move past hurt and pain and discover joy in your relationship again. Follow this 4-step process to break the cycle of pain once and for all: Understand the root of your pain. Why do you hurt others or allow them to hurt you? Look deep inside both your past and present...

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4 Quick Strategies to Turn Limited Time Into Quality Time

Do you get to spend enough quality time with the people who mean the most in your life? You try to enjoy time together, but life always seems to get in the way, doesn’t it? Luckily, life doesn’t have to be like this. Regardless of how busy you are, you can create quality time, even with limited hours. Plus, you’ll feel lighter and more joyful...

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Things You Should Never Say to Your Partner

Communication is everything when it comes to a healthy relationship. The chemistry of Love has a 7 year expiry date so if during that time you have not found ways to sort out day to day issues then expect to wake up one morning with the falling out of love feeling leaving your relationship half way to shut down. Here are 7 statements not to say...

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Single this Christmas?

Although you might be throwing yourself a pity party that you are single yet again this Christmas, you may be secretly envied by some around you! Couples who have had battles over whose parents they are going to visit this year, maybe having spent ages looking for gifts for their other half who won't appreciate it, pretending to be happy with a...

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8 Signs of a Healthy Relationship

Relationships are challenging. People and relationships evolve over time. It can be a bit like hitting a moving target or trying to understand something that’s constantly in flux. While relationships can be hard to manage, a good relationship is worth the effort. A good relationship can have amazing benefits, but an unhealthy relationship can...

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Courtship Clues That Can Affect Your Future Marriage

Your courtship can show warning signs about your future marriage. It can provide clues and red flags about your relationship. What can your courtship reveal about your partner? Romantic courtships. Contrary to popular belief, extremely romantic courtships are not a guarantee that the relationship will last. Research shows that couples who...

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Questions to Ask Your Partner Before Making a Commitment

Have you had an open discussion with your partner about important life questions? Their answers can teach you more about your partner and their dreams and goals. Even better, these discussions can help you clarify your own desires and determine if you each want the same things in life. What if you don’t want the same things? Are your goals...

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5 Behaviours That Can Kill Your Relationships

Relationships are challenging. It’s not something we’re taught in school, and most of us have few, if any, good role models to emulate. Understanding the most common behaviours that damage relationships can be a good first step to having a relationship that lasts. See how many of these behaviours seem familiar, either in yourself or your partner. These...

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Life As a 50 Plus Fittie!!

As a teenager, 50-year-olds were those comfortable humans who wore slippers, drank copious amounts of tea, might smoke a pipe or knit lovely scarfs and took the dog for a walk twice a day! Having now entered the 50+ culture the above is a mere whiff of what this generation gets up to! For many 50 is the time you start to grow older “disgracefully”....

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8 Tips to Create a More Loving Relationship

Your relationship with your partner has the potential to be the most fulfilling experience in your life. However, there are snags that can happen at every step of the way. No one ever said that relationships were easy! The good news is that if you stay proactive, you can foster a loving relationship no matter how many weeks or years you've been...

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Top 10 Ways of Finding Closure in Your Relationship

As the song says, “Breaking up is hard to do.” Finding closure after the end of a relationship is often harder.  “Closure” is a psychological term that simply means closing the door on something or someone. Closure means you leave the past in the past rather than dragging it out into the present again. In relationships, this means learning...

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Don’t Ignore the Warning Signs of Losing Yourself in a Relationship

Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship to the point that loved ones had difficulty recognizing you? It can happen. Losing yourself because of your close relationship with someone is dangerous and unhealthy. Pay attention to these warning signs before you’ve gone too far for your loved one: You’re unhappy but scared to say it. One...

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Learn the Most Effective Ways to Mend Broken Relationships

As you go through life, you’ll likely encounter situations that result in your relationships with others being broken. Whether those relationships are with friends, co-workers or family members, the negative repercussions of the situation has caused a rift between you and left a gap in your life. There’s always that feeling of being incomplete...

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Friendship Inventory

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3 Crucial Steps to Healing a Broken Heart

The pain that we feel when our relationship with someone we love is ended can be very intense. Common symptoms of a broken heart include sadness, crying, and feeling physical aches and pains in the heart and body. Symptoms of your grief can interfere with your health, well-being, and ability to function in your daily life! If you’re dealing...

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2020 – Year in Review

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4 Keys to an Honest and Successful New Relationship

Starting a new relationship can be difficult, as it takes a great deal of time and effort. If important details are omitted during those first few formative conversations, you could be looking at a rocky road ahead. Starting with a strong foundation of friendship and trust is important when you're building a new relationship. A foundation built...

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I reach my relationship goals easily and quickly.

Relationships are important to me and bring me a lot of joy. Having good relationships is something I focus on because I want to continually build a strong foundation based on love, truth, and respect. My pursuit of meaningful relationships is enjoyable. Every time I reach a goal, I reward myself and choose another one to work on. Realizing small...

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Listening to others enriches my relationships.

All of the relationships in my life have meaning to me. How I act can influence the course of my relationships and I can control my actions. I provide value in my relationships by listening to others and this deepens the connection. Whenever possible, I pay attention to others when they speak, truly listening to what they say. I feel their feelings...

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I see the best in my partner.

I am grateful for the many things that my partner brings to my life. My life would be less fulfilling and enjoyable without their presence. Everyone has flaws. I am free from the need for my partner to be perfect. I am able to overlook flaws and focus on their best attributes. I am lucky to be with such a wonderful person. Even though my...

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It is a lovely feeling to be in love.

My heart sings when I think of the special person who makes me smile. It is a lovely feeling to share love with someone who I consider my soul mate. Being committed to a special person makes life meaningful. Knowing that I have someone to share my deepest secrets with is freeing. I am my truest self when I am in the company of the one I love. The...

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19 Simple Secrets to a Happy Relationship

Happy relationship – it's the holy grail, right? It’s no secret that relationships are hard work! It takes time, commitment and a lot of patience to build a happy and healthy partnership. When it comes to relationships, we spend a lot of time focusing on the big things — but often it is the small gestures and habits that make all the difference....

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Each and every day, I make the person I love, feel extra special.

When I am around my loved one, I always ensure that I let them know by my words and actions that I love them and that they are the most important person in my life. I love to do things for them. I make them a special meal or arrange a pleasant surprise. I might take them somewhere special that the two of us enjoy and pay for it, too. I tell...

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